Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Boys Love Dance Too

E had an awesome time last year in hip hop dance class. He absolutely looks forward to going every single week. One week they were off because they go with the school vacation schedule of the town they're in, and I didn't realize it was spring break. We got there and E was SO bummed. That's how I know it was a great class. For ballet and tap (at a different studio), by his last (3rd) year, he wasn't into it anymore. He was bored. He asked not to go. But these classes now, these teachers, they are amazing and really make kids want to dance.

It's a really low key place, where it isn't a money grab, and they really care about your kids. They had their recital in June. The mother of one of the owners was in the hospital and he still made it to the recital. Their dedication is nothing like anything I've ever seen.

They're running a special- 10% off tuition if you sign up before August 26th. I just emailed my registration. They do payment plans where they just take the money out of your bank every month, which makes it a lot easier than handing over the whole chunk of money at once.

E's confidence has soared ever since realizing he can dance and dance well. I feel like he's super coordinated in other activities because of dance. It's also great exercise.

I just saw they have a Groupon going too for Drop-In classes.

Here is their website address- www.dancetcstudio.com, their fall schedule and their registration form. The email is dancetcstudio@gmail.com and the address is 7-15 Fair Lawn Ave, Fair Lawn NJ 07410

Monday, August 8, 2016

Down There and Up Here

I don't know if I've ever discussed my obsession with Sky (brand) clothing in here. Probably because I want it all for myself. It's a brand out of California. I first saw and loved it on the Real Housewives of Orange County. Then the Real Housewives of New Jersey adopted it. Many of the Sky fabrics and styles just work for my body type. Once Arden B. went a little too club-trendy, and then out of business, I was out of luck. Sky is definitely higher end. I could never afford to buy much of it at full retail price, but watch out if I find it on a sale rack. It's just REALLY hard to find here.

Sky brand is carried in boutiques mostly. Most of these boutiques are small and don't have a lot of inventory to begin with. Then with the Sky stuff, they only seem to have a few pieces. In my experience, the dresses are scarce.

It was going to be a rainy Sunday, a day we'd normally be on the beach. I still wanted to go down to Red Bank because Cupcake Magician's hours on Sunday don't gel with my tanning/beach schedule. They open at 11a and close by 4p. I'd never make it on a beach day. I also wanted to hit up Double Take (consignment) because last year around this time, I found a great Sky dress for sale at the one in Ridgewood.

We went down the shore area we always go to and I got my cupcakes. Had no luck at Double Take, so I started looking up stores that carry Sky. I found a few places- Shrewsbury, Long Branch and Asbury park. I went to Shrewsbury and Long Branch and had no luck. One place carried some Sky but nothing I wanted and the other had nothing. We weren't going to go to Asbury because it was out of the way and rainy. My cousin said they were still there eating brunch and it wasn't raining there. So we thought we'd just go there if it was the only place we weren't going to get soaked.

We had last been in Asbury on the day of the PRIDE parade. Some of the stores were closed. We walked by Fetish on Cookman Ave and it was closed. Honestly, I didn't look in- I thought it was a sex store.

This time though, that was my destination. I looked on the ShopSky website (www.shopsky.com) and it says their stuff is sold at Fetish. So to Fetish I was going. I walked in and JACKPOT. A decent amount of Sky. A rack of dresses and then some stuff sprinkled on other racks. There were two dresses I was interested in. Neither were really my size, but I thought I would try both on and see which size could fit. I put the first one on and it was made for me. It was just SO me. AND, it was on sale. That was the whole point- I was looking for Sky on sale and here it was, just waiting for me. In regards to shopping, and loving "gowns" like I do, it often works in my favor having an August birthday. Maxi dresses are considered "summer" here, so I can usually get something on sale. The stores are already geared up for fall.

The staff at Fetish was lovely. I only could find one business card with one person's name on it- Sarah. She was very helpful and so was the other girl who was working with her that day. (Sorry I didn't take better notes). I will TOTALLY go back there. They have a lot of "goth" type stuff, but somehow they have Sky there too and it works.

644 Cookman Ave
Asbury Park, NJ 07712

Then, this past week was also the Ridgewood Sidewalk Sale. I always try to go so I might try to get E some new sneakers for school, at Ridgewood Bootery. Or get my Nike Air Pegasus for me at a running store there. Both of which, I did happen to score this time. I had a little time for once, because I took of that day, so I thought I'd peruse the whole street. I walked all the way up from Ridgewood Bootery towards the train station. On the left side after Ridgewood Coffee, there is a new-ish boutique called Gigi's Boutique.

I say it's "new" but it's actually been there for a year and a half. I guess I haven't been in Ridgewood, just walking around in a long time. Or if I was, it wasn't up that far. I go to the Ridgewood shopping district way less ever since Gymboree closed. That was my go-to place for gifts or for something quick for E. So I found Gigi's after I did some walking. It is next to a bridal shop that moved somewhere else.

It's really nice in there. They have a larger selection than quite a few of the boutiques I'd gone into on my dress-quest. She had a decent amount of Sky tops and I wanted all of them. I was annoyed that Sky didn't have Gigi's in their store locator search on their site. While there were no dresses that I saw there, I was able to see the tops to determine what kind of size I'd want in that brand. There were other really nice things in there too. I saw some tied dyed active wear that was right up my alley. I met the owners, who are lovely and seem like they're very accommodating. I just felt like they probably go out of their way for their customers.

I wasn't really in shopping mode that day- I was in my bathing suit for the pool and I wanted to maximize my sun time. I wasn't trying anything on. Not without the proper bra. I was in and out of the boutique pretty quick, after chatting up the owners for a few minutes. Gigi's is definitely a nice addition to Ridgewood's downtown. I feel like I could find things in there that wouldn't look silly on someone in their 40's. There is something for everyone. There was a girl and her mom in there while I was there- the daughter had to be college age. So either they have something for everyone or I just don't know that I'm too old to shop in certain places.

Definitely stop in if you want something to go out to dinner with the girls in or for date night.

Gigi's Boutique
48 E.Ridgewood Ave
Ridgewood, NJ 07450

Monday, August 1, 2016

Best of Bergen 2017


Hi there! It's me. I'm here. And I do have real stuff to write about- including a great find (boutique) that I happened upon the other day. I just can't write about this minute, because I want a good photo of something I bought there and I don't have that yet.

I do have a favor to ask though! Sorry, but I do. It's that time of year again where I need to please vote for my store in the 201 Magazine Best of Bergen Poll. I know I've said it before, but this free advertising goes a long way.

Voting in this poll can be your superficial escape today. Winning this honor is something that helps us immensely. It just gives us another inch of credibility and it's great advertising. It's sort of like our Emmy awards. It's a little pat on the back for how hard we work to really BE the best.


They went from "Home Decor" to "Home" but it's #99, and if you could vote for Shades of Soho, Glen Rock in that category, we'd really appreciate it!

Thanks so much!!

Oh, and PS- I just found out today that we won 2nd place in the Jewish Standard's Readers Choice 2016 vote.  Here is the supplement: https://www.scribd.com/embeds/319479645/content?start_page=1&view_mode=slideshow&access_key=key-wAaMDoRucVtTZwsWcLZN&show_recommendations=false

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

E Health Update And Magnesium PSA

Somewhere I know I talked about E and magnesium deficiency. I thought we'd cured his tics with a magnesium vitamin. We were thrilled. We haven't been to a doctor for him in about a year. After all the scary possibilities- cystic fibrosis, scleroderma, elevated ANA and the possibility of all kinds of troubling autoimmune diseases. Asthma, allergies, infectious disease, vestibular processing disorder, tic disorder. You name it, I've heard it. He's been tested for it. Poked, prodded, tested, scratched, CT scan, MRI. Yet nothing concrete, and NO ONE MENTIONED MAGNESIUM, ever. Not once.

I got that offhand comment from my friend a year ago and on the magnesium train we hopped. I'd read a small amount, which was good enough for me. Symptoms matched up pretty well. We gave him the vitamin, and voila, tics lessened and were almost 100% gone.

They came back a little for a time, but it didn't last long and we were good. Then, nothing. For about a year.

He was totally fine. Then, it seemed out of nowhere, started with the tics like he had shpilkes (yiddish for ants in your pants). Except these weren't ants in his pants. This was the pulling of the nose, the ripping at the eyes, the fingers just rubbing each other going a mile a minute, and the wiping at his mouth.

The most frustrating part was that he'd seem fine in the ocean and on the beach on Sundays, but the second we'd get back in my cousin's townhouse after the beach, he'd be at his face again. What were we going to do? Set up a tent on the beach? Live on a boat?

I didn't know whether to scream or cry.  I was pretty much out of options. The last specialist we went to was a rheumatologist. She bent him backward, he said "ow", so she ordered an x-ray for scoliosis. That's when B and I looked at each other and just did a Pheobe (Friends), "Oh, no." He doesn't have f'ing scoliosis. That was the nail in the coffin for realizing specialists just like to diagnose in their specialty. Just like the immunologist said it's autoimmune, the neurologist said tic disorder, the OT said vestibular processing disorder, the allergist said allergies, and the infectious disease doc looked at me like I might have Munchausen's By Proxy.

I'd been putting the Natural Calm Kids liquid vitamin in Trop 50 orange juice. I don't know why but one of the no pulp versions has extra calcium and vitamin D. They're the same price so why wouldn't I want the one with the extra vitamins in it? I'll tell you why.

Apparently, the whole magnesium deficiency thing is a delicate dance with calcium and vitamin D. It's a delicate balance that has to be maintained. He was fine until summer hit. Why? Because all of a sudden he's getting a much higher influx of Vitamin D because he's at camp, outside all day. He's at the town pool every Saturday. He's at the beach on Sundays. Apparently, the more Vitamin D, the more depleted of magnesium you get. Calcium also depletes magnesium. That's why if you're taking vitamins or food/drink fortified with extra calcium, you need to make sure you're also taking stuff with magnesium.

When you get your magnesium level right, you should see a difference almost immediately. A friend of mine on a message board mentioned the whole Vitamin D/Calcium connection and that in the summer, we might need to up E's dose to regulate him again- because it's summer. She said she needs to up hers when summer begins. That's all I needed to hear.

Monday, I gave him extra Natural Calm. By Tuesday he seemed better. It's only Wednesday, but I'm feeling confident. I ordered a roll on for him, I ordered B his own oral Natural Calm for adults, and I ordered one for me that's specifically for migraine. If I end up getting rid of E's tics, B's sometimes brain fogginess, AND my chronic pain, with magnesium, I'll be the happiest person alive.

And by the way- why was he ok at the beach but nowhere else? Well, the logical answer, that we had no idea about is that the ocean is one-third magnesium. Who knew? It's not something I would ever think of to even research. I never even thought about it topically.

Now, could his health issues be something else? I guess it could. Maybe it's a combination of things. I'm sure as time goes on, we'll keep finding out more and more. It's just that all the signs seem to point to this, at least for the tic part, especially with the whole ocean portion.

I don't want to get too excited. B doesn't even want me writing health updates because every time we thing we're good on the tics, I write about it, and they come back. I'll just say I'm cautiously optimistic now. We'd never heard anything about this calcium and Vitamin D thing so that's all new and now I have an option. That's what I'm happy about. I was scared I'd hit the end of the road. And then what? I have no more specialists, that I know of, in which to take him. We've been through five pediatricians, two allergists, two ENTs, two pulmonologists, an infectious disease doc, an immunologist, a neurologist, two dermatologists, an opthamologist (his eyes were part of the tics), an occupational therapist, and the last was the rheumatologist.

By the time I had E tested, he'd already been on the Natural Calm for months. He tested normal by then. So I don't even know how deficient he was or wasn't. Testing for magnesium deficiency isn't even on any doctor radar it seems. Testing is definitely not done as routine.

As soon as I heard of the whole magnesium connection, I ran right out to the store to buy a supplement. The last thing I was thinking of was doctors. I'd had enough doctors and I really don't trust any of them to diagnose anything after all we've been through with this. I'm not anti-doctor at all. But this has been a long, six year journey and any helpful info I've gotten for E, has been from friends and acquaintances just having random conversation, vs going to doctors. I'm really just more confident in my own sleuthing abilities on this subject. My kid has been pumped with more unnecessary medications from Albuterol to Singulair, both of which turned him into a little monster, and various really strong antibiotics. 

I just ordered more magnesium stuff from Jet- they seem to have the best prices. If you sign up for Jet, use the code Triple15 and you get 15% off your first order and two more. If you've already ordered from them, just use a different email address. They don't seem to care.

Here's what I ordered:
Life Flo Magnesium Oil Sport Roll On
Natural Vitality Calm Packettes

And this is the liquid I get for E:
Natural Vitality Calm Kids

Here are some of the symptoms of magnesium deficiency (from Wikipedia):

Signs and symptoms. Symptoms of magnesium deficiency include hyperexcitability, muscular symptoms (cramps, tremor, fasciculations, spasms, tetany, weakness), fatigue, loss of appetite, apathy, confusion, insomnia, irritability, poor memory, and reduced ability to learn.

This list is from Collective Evolution: http://www.collective-evolution.com/2016/07/11/the-many-signs-of-magnesium-deficiency-why-we-are-all-suffering-from-it-what-to-do-about-it/

  • Constipation
  • High blood pressure (Hypertension)
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Insomnia
  • Behavioral disturbances
  • Lethargy
  • Impaired memory/thinking
  • Seizures
  • Fatigue
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Pain
  • Muscle cramps
  • Chronic back pain
  • Headaches
  • Migraines
  • Muscular pain
  • Tendonitis
  • Anger
  • Aggression
  • ADHD
  • Brain fog
  • Tension
  • Anxiety disorders such as OCD

Here is more information from a gov't site: